Untangling the work you love from the trap of your mind
What you’re good at doing is different than what you love doing
The clients I work with in my business are good at so many things - it’s beautiful! Often, though, that’s the very thing that can complicate their journey to finding the work in the world they love.
Too often when I’m working with women who want to bring something new into their work – whether that be a coaching, healing or creative business or some other creative way of being and working – they mishear an important question.
What is something you love doing in this world?
Early in our work together, I ask my clients what is something you love doing?
And then, they start by telling me all the things they’re good at. They’re good at coaching or communication. They’re good at leading groups or prayers. They’re good at being intuitive or creating instructional videos. Or eBooks. Or courses…
As they tell me all of this, I can feel their energy start to drag.
Like drips of honey entering a complex set of gears, they unconsciously mix up something sweet with their beautiful, logical mind. I know because it’s happened to me…many times.
So, I let them finish telling me all the things they’re good at and that they enjoy. The things they do that people really appreciate. And so on.
And then I gently point out that I didn’t ask them what they were good at, I asked them what they loved doing. What do they love, love, love? What do they lose all track of time doing? What makes their heart feel like it’s both calm and filled with butterflies in the same breath? Where do they experience that magical sense of timelessness, of creativity, of flow?
When I say this, often there’s a pause. A quietness comes over them as they realize how easily they slid right over and ran past the thing they love.
It’s at the heaRT
It’s that thing - the thing that lights you up the most - that holds the key. Step toward that, and you’re moving toward better understanding your work in the world. No matter how crazy it sounds. No matter how you can’t envision making money from it - or creating a business doing it - or selling it.
It’s not up to you to figure it all out on your own, and none of that matters now.
It is up to you to pay attention to yourself. To how you feel in the soft moments when a breeze enters the room. To the whispers that show up at dawn. To the movements of your heart when you see something that stirs you.
The rest? Once you start and keep walking toward the thing you love, it’ll all unfold as it’s meant to for you. 🌸